We all go through heartbreaks–can be minimal and or those we call hitting the rock bottom big time. As we continue to wallow on the pains we had for days, weeks, months or even years, we come to a conclusion that break ups or loses cause us emotional disturbances. There are times we question our decisions. Moments where we reminisce of the sacrifices we made but still end up brokenhearted.
Do we deserve this? Was it worth all the effort we’ve done? Did we do our best while with the person involve? Were we distracted with our priorities– dream work, plans for the future, etc.
Or we end things because no matter how much we tried harder, the result we keep on getting is still the same. Or did we put so much perfection and expectation that we forgot that the person we are involved with is just merely human like us who can make mistakes without realizing it.
When we are brokenhearted we often focus on the other side of the story. We do not usually recognize our participation to why it happened in the beginning. We point most the fingers to the person involve because we are so full of anguish, revenge and dwell much on the pain we are going through. But have we ever thought at least once that things happened because we are part of it?
As we continue to dwell on the why’s and the how’s, we came to a point and slowly realize that yes, we have made this and that mistakes, too not the other person alone. We have forgotten that we have been in that situation and because we allowed it, the blame is on the other person solely. But little did we know that our time and effort with dwelling to that situation has caused it too.
While we recognize the pain we caused the other person, accepting it is somehow difficult. Acceptance is a process and so as with healing and forgiveness. We forgive the person who caused us pain, but we shouldn’t forget to forgive ourselves, too. Self love, healing and forgiveness is the first step towards forgiving the people who caused us the pain. It is the start of the lessons we are learning.
Although it will never be an easy journey to accept, to forgive and to move on, the value of time and effort will help you to bring back the good thoughts we once lost. We are going to learn to love our self more. We are going to respect our self more. We are going to forgive and accept our self more.
Digging deeper to who we really are is already a learning while we are mending our brokenness. There is good opportunity to learn our more about who we are while we are healing. Rather than we continue to wallow and hate, use it as the beginning to learn more about who we are. To start anew is what matters, We will not grow when we do not make mistakes. We won’t learn anything new when we do not fail.
Realistically speaking, life is about failing and bouncing back. Our life will be stagnant if there were no heartbreaks, failures and pains. It won’t be as exciting to live and there were no such things to look forward too if all we want is easy to achieve. We may fail, get hurt, and broken in different aspects of life, our common ground is–we learn from it.